Life Lessons I’ve Learned From Dealing With Awful People
Many of us were never given the tools to deal with manipulation, envy, cruelty, nastiness, etc. We were told too often to “let things go” or “give someone the benefit of the doubt” or “good Muslims don’t argue,” but that advice can be detrimental to one’s wellbeing.
Some people are just plain awful and unhappy, and they will not rest until you become just. Like. Them. So guard your heart, defend yourself when necessary, and realize that being a pushover isn’t a virtue. The Prophet SAW said that Allah SWT says,
“O My slaves, I have forbidden zulm (injustice, wrongdoing, unfairness) to Myself and I have made it haram amongst you, so do not wrong one another.” (Hadith Qudsi - Muslim)
In the Quran, Allah SWT says:
“Allah does not love the oppressors.” (Quran 3:140)
Life Lessons of Dealing with Awful People
When you respect yourself, letting go of people who are cruel to you is not a decision but a requirement.
Sometimes it's better to be silent and not bother defending yourself against pathetic people.
You can't control what others think of you, and you're not responsible for their actions.
People who hurt and betray you teach great life lessons and motivate you to do even better.
Being good doesn't mean being a pushover. It's important to stand up for yourself and speak the facts.
Most nasty people usually don't change, they just get less mean from a hard life or old age.
If you grow, change, or succeed in anything important, you'll find out who really cares about you.
Saying no without feeling guilty shows you are no longer chained down by other people's gossip.
Loyalty isn’t a good reason to allow people to walk all over you and continue to upset you.
People will dislike you for doing the things they chose not to do but know they should be doing.
When you're happy and content, most of your family and friends won't be happy for you.
When people stop making time for you, it means you're not a priority and they don't benefit from you anymore,
When you're too nice, you attract losers, victims, and takers who'll use you shamelessly.
People will still be envious of what you have, even if they have more than you, so stay private.
Being alone is better than being with people you don't learn from or who drain your time.
People treat you the way you allow them to, so respect yourself first before expecting respect from anyone else.
Remember, Allah SWT is the only one who will never disappoint you.
I hope that after reading this, you will be able to deal with difficult people in a smarter way. If you’re facing hardships you can’t solve, seek help, don’t suffer in silence.
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