True Friends Don’t Walk Away After Misunderstandings
One of the biggest tests of friendship comes in moments of misunderstanding. Sometimes, you realize that a person you thought was close was only around as long as things went smoothly. The moment there’s a crack, they leave. That kind of friendship was never real; it was a performance.
True friendship doesn’t break that easily. A sincere friend will pause, ask, clarify, and forgive. She will give you space to be human, to make mistakes, and to learn. She won’t walk away because of you; she’ll walk with you through the difficulty.
Misunderstandings aren’t the end of a bond; they are the test of it.
The Value of Friendship in Islam
Islam reminds us how powerful companionship is in shaping our choices. The Prophet SAW said:
“A person is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.” (Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi)
Our friends influence our deen, our character, and even our mindset. That’s why Allah SWT warns us that friendships not built on sincerity won’t last:
“Close friends, that Day, will be enemies to each other—except for the righteous.” (Quran 43:67)
A friend who leaves you over a small misunderstanding may have never been meant for your journey. But the one who stays, who helps you turn back to Allah, is a blessing you should hold onto dearly.
What True Friendship Looks Like
She reminds you of Allah, even when you don’t want to hear it.
She gives you the benefit of the doubt, not the harshest assumption.
She stays through conflict, patiently working things out.
She prays for you when you don’t even know it.
She practices open communication. A real friend won’t punish you with silence or assume the worst about words you didn’t say. She’ll ask you openly what you mean, think the best of you, and talk it through. That honesty is the only way to grow closer. The Prophet SAW told us:
“The supplication of a Muslim for his brother in his absence will certainly be answered.” (Sahih Muslim)
This is the kind of love that lasts.
Part of this sincerity is that if you wrong your friend, without it being a habit, and you come back with humility and ask forgiveness, a true friend will open her heart to you. Because she knows she is imperfect too. She won’t judge you harshly or label you as unworthy. Instead, she will sympathize, give you chances, and understand that we all go through seasons when we don’t think straight. That mercy is the mark of a real bond.
A Sisterly Reminder
If someone walked away at the first sign of trouble, don’t let that shake your heart. Allah may be saving you from harm. Instead, cherish the sisters who stay, who forgive, who remind you of your akhirah, and who are a source of sakina in your life.
True friendship is not flawless; it’s faithful. It’s not about never having cracks, but about holding on through them. And the best friendship is the one tied together by love for Allah SWT and wants the best for you.
A Dua for Righteous Friendships
Ya Allah, grant us sincere friends who love us for Your sake. Make them a means of strengthening our faith, forgiving our faults, and guiding us to goodness. Protect us from friendships that harm us, our families, and our deen, and reunite us with our true companions in Jannah, under Your mercy. Ameen.
Salaam, I’m Zakeeya
I believe our homes are meant to be havens of sakina—places where families feel safe, nurtured, and loved. Since 2011, I’ve been dedicated to helping Muslim women find tranquility in their roles, care for themselves with dignity, and achieve inner peace. Drawing on my years of experience as a wife, mother, and mentor, I share tools and guidance to help you face life’s challenges with more gratitude and mindfulness. Here, you’ll find Muslima, wifehood, motherhood, and lifestyle insights to make your journey as a woman more fulfilling, inshallah. Read more about me here.
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